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Tuesday, October 28, 2014
How Adult Children Can Prepare for Loss
There’s no way around it – preparing for the loss of a loved one is wrenching. But, there are things that you can do during this time that may give you and the person you love better peace of mind. Learn more about how adult children can prepare for the loss of a loved one.
Preparing for Loss
Polly Cummings was not prepared for the death of her husband Walter 13 years ago. Although the 53-year-old had a grim prognosis and year-long illness, she was so focused on driving him to chemotherapy and mothering her two children that she didn’t think about the time when he would no longer be there.
“It was a source of pride for Walter to do the finances, so I let him,” says Polly. “But, when he died, I was not prepared. I didn’t know where to start. Instead of flailing around, I should have talked ahead of time to his accountant, financial advisor, and bank. It made the loss even worse.”
You can chalk up her lapse to caregiver exhaustion, inexperience, and something else: our society’s extreme discomfort with discussing death, whether it’s our own or someone else’s.
Slowly, though, that attitude is shifting, thanks to 76 million “tell-it-like-it-is” boomers who turn 68 this year.